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Happy New Year and welcome to 2015!
I want to start this year off on the right foot. I listed a few things in my end-of-the-year post that I would like to focus on and accomplish in 2015. One thing I mentioned in transitioning to my natural hair.
I don’t keep it much of a secret that I wear a weave. It is a full sew-in with no hair left out. So basically, all of my natural hair is braided up and hidden from the world. This is known as a protective hair style and one that I have really enjoyed the versatility of. I love being able to change my hair length, texture, and color every few months. The downside is the cost and sometimes, the maintenance can be difficult for me. As you might know, or maybe have guessed, I’m not much of a girly girl. When it comes to hair (and makeup for that matter) I am a novice in every sense of the word.
I have been wearing my hair in a weave for almost six years now. Wearing my natural hair is something I have considered off and on over the years, however. I can never seem to get up the courage. Why you may ask? There are so many reasons. I actually read an article the other day (but I can’t find the link for the life of me, ARG!) about why black women often struggle to embrace their natural hair. For me, I work in a somewhat professional environment and sometimes fear my natural hair might not be viewed as “professional.” There are plenty of examples of the societal stigma that does not support natural hair styles of black women. But I’m getting to a point now that I don’t care. I want to try something different. Something that feels more like…me.
So, for me 2015 will be the year of beauty. I am going to experiment with my hair, and occasionally my makeup. As a married mother with a full plate, it might seem odd to embark on this journey now but it also feels the most natural for me. The older I get, the more confident I get. Motherhood, life experience, and just comfort in my own skin has actually given me the confidence to try new things in the beauty department.
Happy Monday! Posts two days in a row? No way?!
A few months back (August, I think) I did a 30 miles in 30 days challenge and I really enjoyed trying to meet my goal. I was able to easily exceed it and decided that December is time for a new challenge.
This time, I’ve enlisted the help of some of my friends. I’ve started a Facebook group and added a few friends, near and far, to join me in starting and finishing a monthly challenge. This is different in that I’m asking them to do any challenge they want. The goal of the group is to support each other, not just do a specific challenge. I’ve actually posted a few on our group page, and tonight I decided to mix and match the different workout moves to make my own challenge.Tomorrow, I will probably mix and match day two from a few of the challenges I’ve posted. Below are the ones I posted for the group chose from:
Interested in getting motivated and healthy in December? Try out one of the challenges!
I’m finally back on the left coast and starting to get back to normal after traveling through time for the past week. I was in North Carolina just long enough to get used to the time difference and then head back. Even my much-needed day in between yesterday couldn’t get me caught up on all of the sleep.
Unfortunately, I did not get the chance to blog from the road (maybe next time) but I did get to have lots of wonderful times with old friends and new. I got to shower one of my best girls with love and celebrate her upcoming wedding. I also got to drink lots of wine. I’ve missed that.
It felt strange not having a toddler climbing all over me or needing something. It was strange not parenting. Dog life was a change as well. I forget how much attention they want and need. But just like the cats, at the end of the day, they just want to snuggle up with you.
I stayed up late, ate badly, and swore like a sailor. Very, very good times.
So glad to be home to my little family in our little world though. I’ll get back into this parenting grind. Patience is a virtue I only have for my child but apparently, I can get rusty at that too. He’s picked up a lot of new attitude since I’ve been gone. So back to work I go, trying to make a decent human being out of him.
In the meantime, please enjoy a few snapshots of my journey away.
If 30 doesn’t make you officially old, 31 has to, right?!
Another year in the books and I am pleased to say that 30 wasn’t that bad. Good job, got into grad school, and we didn’t move to a new place, so that’s a bonus. I’ve reconnected with old friends and made some new ones.
I look back on the things I’ve learned and how I’ve grown. Patience, understanding different viewpoints, maturity, power, and self-awareness. Things are areas that I have improved upon, and will continue to work on everyday.
I am lucky to have my husband with me through everything. He is strong, yet sensitive. Most importantly, he’s my partner. We really do complement each other well.
As with so much of the joy in my life these days, I owe so many smiles to my son. For a little over two years, he has really shown me what life is all about. Growing a person, raising a person, being someone’s rock, their strength, their world…nothing else compares to that. As long as I get to keep doing this mommy thing, I know I’ll be alright with getting older.
Or so I’d like to think. I realized the other day that it really saddens me to seen grown women who aren’t comfortable with themselves. I’m not saying you need to be super arrogant, but if you are at least honest with yourself and comfortable in your own skin, people can tell.
I have not always been the most comfortable and confident woman. Heck, to this day I struggle with it. But at the end of the day I accept that I look how I look, my personality is pretty much set, and not everyone will like me or find me attractive. That’s life. I wonder how much harder my life would be if I still worried about what everyone thought. Or tried to please the masses. I would feel overwhelmed and depressed for not living up to this or that.
Maybe it’s 30. Maybe it’s being a wife and mother. Maybe it’s adversity toughening me up. Whatever has given me this outlook, I like it. I also hope to pay it forward. I don’t care if you’re 14 or 40, just love yourself. If you don’t, who will?
What gives you the confidence to be you?
“Now I’m no longer doubtful of what I’m living for, and if I make you happy I don’t need to do more.” – Aretha Franklin
This is true of relationships….and motherhood =)
My husband and I were talking yesterday and I was telling him how my outlook on tasks, goals, and projects has changed since becoming a mother. What I realized is that because of the permanence of becoming a parent, and more specifically going through pregnancy, I see now how important it is to follow through. Continue reading
We’ve all felt it. Many of us still experience it on a regular basis.
Jealousy. Continue reading