For Gabriel’s fourth birthday I decided to take a break from party planning and plan a trip to Disneyland instead. I figured this age is still young enough to enjoy all of the magic of the parks and old enough … Continue reading
I feel like I tend to stay pretty positive on this blog. That’s me talking like I post all that often…yeah, so there’s that. But when I do post I try to stay honest, and for the most part grateful.
The truth is, I am extremely grateful. Probably the thing I am most grateful for is a happy and (mostly) healthy child. On the whole, he gets sick much less that most kids, I believe. One of the perks of staying home. He’s battling bronchitis and some tummy issues these days, so it is not all sunshine and roses.
But I know that I have a lot. Namely, I know that without medical interventions, my child and I might not be here.
Recently, I read a post on a Facebook page that triggered something in me. It is something that I feel often but that I try let go because I know that is is a losing battle in many ways. The truth is that is shame.
Gabriel was born via c-section and if you are familiar with the “mommy wars” you will know that one of the Cardinal sins you cannot commit is delivering your baby via c-section.
What this post triggered is the thought that those who delivered vaginally…normally…properly…were superior. And that all women that have c-sections have the option. It is some elective surgery that we cruise into the hospital for and breeze through. So much nonsense.
I often scroll past these mommy war posts. Not giving them the time of day or the power. But because I clicked, and gave this post a cursory glance, I gave it power.
Part of my anger was the implication that somehow my child is less-than because of this one aspect of his life. He is somehow doomed to a life of illness and idiocy because he was able to be born at all. Why are children delivered via c-section fair game for such judgement? Will they start to study children conceived through IVF and scare their parents with stories of their fate?! Not likely. So disheartening that my child will have to forever be stigmatized because of how he was delivered. What a life!
After fuming and scrolling simultaneously, I started to scan the comments. Then I gave in. What I posted as my comment is below:
These articles are written like every woman has a choice. Like all c-sections are some selfish election by entitled mothers. They are not. They are often a concessions after all other interventions did not work. For those of us who just want the opportunity for our children to come into this world ALIVE and as safe as possible. People elect all kinds of interventions to get pregnant and we praise that. But as soon as we sacrifice our bodies for them to be born, by being sawed in half, only for the chance to enjoy that life, we are chastised, talked down to, and disrespected. So sick of it and these bullshit articles that try to make correlation and causation. Fuck off! My kid is the healthiest I know.
So that’s my rant. That’s my beef. I move through most days without this burden affecting me but some days, I just gotta say STFU to the mommy wars. Enjoy your babies and know that parenting is not a competition. So much of life is out of our control. Judgement serves no purpose and advances no cause. Focus on you and your own and view fellow mommies as commrades rather than competitors. We’re all in the trenches together doing the dirty work. Cheers to us all!
Drum roll please…. Apple cider vinegar! Holy mother! If you know anything about apple cider vinegar, you’ll enjoy that little joke 😉 My next adventure into natural health is apple cider vinegar. As I’ve been exploring hair and beauty solutions, … Continue reading
Happy 2016 cats and kittens! I was very ambitious at the end of 2015 when I started my 28-Day Jumpstart through Fit Girls Guide. About halfway through the program, I realized that the amount of dairy I was ingesting was … Continue reading
Happy (almost) new year all!
This is by far my favorite holiday of the year. Yes, I am one of those people that’s all about “new year, new me.” It’s not that I necessarily believe that everything has to change with each roll to a new year, but I do think that the closing of one year is an opportunity to reflect; on the good, the bad, what you’ve learned, and what can be changed. It is a great way to mark the passage of time.
So, I made a little list last year at the end of 2014, nothing crazy, just a few things I wanted to try and accomplish.
- Starting with the most important, I transitioned to my natural hair! It was a long-time coming but so far, so good. I’ve learned lots, but my journey is still beginning. Onward to 2016!
- We were able to successfully rid our house of pacifiers, but potty training is still in-progress.
- Baby #2? Well, work, school, life, my health…heck, everything got in the way
- This child will be potty trained. By March, is my plan!
- Save money! $$$
- Finish my graduate degree. My goal is Spring (optimistic). Could be Fall (realistic).
- Baby #2. Let’s try this one again…
Those are just a few this things that I’d like to work on in 2016. I hope you all have a safe New Year’s Eve and a wonderful new year. Bring on 2016!
Happy Holidays all! It has been so very nice to have time off, as it seemed the end of this year was wearing me down. After five days off, I was back to work today. Getting back in the swing … Continue reading
So, in week three of following the Fit Girls Guide, I discovered a small hiccup in the meal plan. I’m lactose intolerant and many (seems as if all) meals include some sort of dairy. For breakfast, 2% greek yogurt is … Continue reading
Last week was a whirlwind. Both work and school were winding down at the same time. In the midst of this, my husband states that he would like a dog for Christmas. While dogs have never been off-limits, we never … Continue reading
Book review time! It has been a while since I posted one of these. Probably over a year. While my book club has been humming along, I haven’t kept up with posting my review of the books we read/listen too … Continue reading
My meal prep got off to a rocky start and I was never really able to regain my footing. I am used to prepping for a few days worth of lunches on Sunday evening, but prepping for three full meals per day was serious. I put off some of the prep and thus was scrambling to put together dinners each day of the week. Snacks were overlooked and I often went off the rails.
Needless to say this committment to clean eating thing is hard work. I think I took it lightly because I had a “guide” to follow. For whatever reason, my thinking has been, as long as I know what to make I’ll just do it. Not so fast…I had three meals spelled out for me but the hard part was the cutting, sauteing, mixing, and cooking for each meal…Perhaps other ladies starting this journey are more skilled in the kitchen but I felt like I was floundering.
Add to that my schedule. This was the last week of classes at work. Being new to this position still, I feel a good amount of pressure right now because I am still learning. Then throw in my master’s program, top with family (arguing with a three year old is no joke!) and you have a recipe for exhaustion.
The exercise portion of this program? Almost non-existent. Drinking enough water? Yeah, no.
For a status update, I will not call this week a loss. I think the majority of what I was ate was better than I normally eat. I increased my whole food intake substantially; barely anyting processed. I made a conscious effort to drink more water and that is steadily increasing, though still not optimal. I cooked for myself healthy, virtually salt-free meals. I exercised. I was conscous of everything I ate. I’ll give myself a passing grade (C) but I won’t say I high acheiving.
While I cannot say that this first week was “successful,” I will say that it was a step in the right direction with the necessity for improvement. This program does not focus on perfection. Nevertheless, self-control and awareness are needed for me to make changes.
On to week 2! I’ve already started my grocery list and know in my mind that I will need to give myself more time and energy toward my food. Wish me luck!
P.S. – Here’s a look back at some of the things I did well this week 😉