Tomorrow is the four year wedding anniversary for my husband and me. These past four years have made us stronger and wiser. We’ve dealt with death, birth, parenthood, hospitalization, and many more challenges that might overwhelm the average couple of our generation.
I think from the beginning dear husband (DH) and I have always understood that you have to work hard at marriage. Even though movies and television try to make it seem like it should be easy, we both know from our parents experiences that marriage takes not only work and commitment, it takes determination. Maybe it’s generational, or maybe it is just that fantasy belief that love and marriage should be easy, but I feel that many don’t value or want the hard work. I welcome it. I married someone different from me so that we could have a balance. Because I appreciate his uniqueness and individuality. Don’t get me wrong, I’m awesome. But I don’t need to spend the rest of my life with the male version of myself. Opposites don’t have to attract but for us, it works.
It has never been more evident than it is now that we are parents. Gabriel gets the best of all worlds. Logical and emotions. A working parent and a stay-at-home parent. Carefree and structured. We are able to offer a holistic style of parenting that helps him flourish and leaves him nurtured.
DH is my compliment. He’s the silly to my serious. He’s patient when I’m impatient. And I’m calm when he’s frazzled.
With all that’s happened, four years seems like a flash in the pan. But I have so many wonderful memories to look back on and to be thankful for. We’ve had a lot of good luck along the way to go with our hard work. We deserve the happiness that we get and so much more.
Thank you for four wonderful years of marriage, DH. Let’s keep this party going! xoxo ❤
October 17, 2010…our rainy day wedding. I guess it is good luck!
Well now, 2013, you’ve done a good job throwing everything but the kitchen sink at me, now haven’t you? I seem to remember that it was not but a few blog posts ago that I was so hopeful that you, 2013 would be a great year for me. Yet here we are, about one month in and I’ve had just about enough. But let’s start with the good. Continue reading →
I guess the number 17 is becoming a pretty special one for the Graening family. It didn’t dawn on me until someone asked me how old my son was. I immediately said six months and realized that he is quickly approaching seven months. When I thought about how long it would be until he was seven months, my mind seemed to blank. How did I forget the 17th was his monthly birthday? I realized that in my mind, the 17th of October was my wedding anniversary, not Gabriel’s seventh month. Then I thought how cute it is that they fall on the same day. I had been thinking lately that seven months is pretty bland. No major doctor’s appointments or milestones like six months and not much going on until nine months. Continue reading →
I woke up this morning and, without marking my calender or setting up a reminder, I remembered. Today is the anniversary of the day I went to the doctor and found out I was expecting my first child. There was no build up; it just came to me as I stood looking at myself in the mirror. I woke up puking that morning, which was the culmination of a half a dozen symptoms that should have lead me to the correct conclusion long before I made that fateful trip to the doctor. I’m not one to take a whole day of of work and go to the doctor just because I’m feeling a little sick. But I was having too many symptoms to ignore. I still think back and laugh at myself for not putting it all together. My doctor laughed at me as well, and that is perhaps one of my fondest memories. I’m telling her all these things and she is looking at me like I’m a dope because it’s the first thing she thought of. In another brilliant move, I had already peed, so peeing into a cup was out of the question (facepalm!) and my doctor gave me a blood test instead. The downside to this of course is that the results wouldn’t be available until the next day. She fixed me up and sent me on my way, not really taking her diagnosis seriously. Continue reading →